I am a somatic sex, intimacy, and relationship coach certified in Skydancing Tantra and trained in the Somatica® Method. I bring a diverse background in communication and embodiment modalities to my work.
I am passionate about creating space for new, authentic conversations and experiences that explore the full range of your potential. Weaving in years as a massage therapist, conflict resolution specialist, and Tantra practitioner, I teach individuals and couples deeper intimacy and fuller sexual aliveness with self and others.
Do you dare to be fully known, to yourself and your lover?
Discover what you need for that to happen, how to ask for it, listen for it, receive it, and give it. Allow me to create a non-judgmental, safe space for a completely new conversation to take place.
You can then play and explore in this experiential laboratory, learning new skills and ways of relating, taking your intimate life to the next level.
Develop a truly intimate relationship with yourself, an essential step to fabulous relationships and extraordinary sex.
Do you know what you want? What you need? Can you articulate your desires and boundaries to others?
Through somatic coaching you'll explore and discover yourself more fully, learning how to cultivate presence and power. Then take that to the bedroom and the world at large!
Awaken to your full potential as an ecstatic being, harnessing your sexual energy and channeling it through the rest of your body and into your whole life. Fuel your creativity, stamina, and vitality with the limitlessness of sexual life force available.
Become an empowered, vital being, cultivating sexual aliveness as a generative life source. Discover how much more alive you can feel!
Available for couples or individuals.
Somatic coaching is an experiential, holistic and comprehensive approach that combines verbal process with somatic practice. Talking will be an important part of our sessions but unlike traditional coaching modalities, you will also get to play and engage in physical explorations to increase your awareness and experience with your body.
We'll work in an authentic and relational way, paying careful attention to boundaries and consent so as to create maximum freedom in a structure of safety. You’ll have time to feel into your experience, noticing what is happening in your body and how that is shaping your experience, thoughts, and feelings.
Integrating insights with somatic exploration instead of mental analysis is a powerful way to break through old conditioning and learn new skills, inviting the discovery of a new way of being.
"It's been over 3 months since your help in healing my 22 year relationship which seemed to have run its course. First among the grievances was sexual dissatisfaction. These complaints burst in with the acknowledgement that we had the most amazing relationship, we had exactly what we wanted, so why was there such a blatant contradiction?
Your input was calm and soothing from the outset. Your response was gentle and non-judgmental, you were not surprised, not concerned, you understood what was happening. You intimated that the old paradigm was gone and that we were not to attempt to revive it. You also saw us as immature, which made us laugh given that I am in my seventies and Anh in her sixties. Only later we understood you were coaxing us to be immature. Your exercises involved respecting boundaries but also exploring physical communication like the play of small children. I can tell you, that fear was significantly lowered when it was clear that we were to relinquish all expectations of performance and simply have fun. Laughter, love and gratitude were not far behind. It was truly a new and happy experience. And you were our joyful reference.
At present our sexual conversation is still ongoing. What became clear is that whenever fear appears in the area of sex it is time to start communicating. Sex for us is no longer an end but a means of sharing our love. Thank you Ilana for your contribution to our lives, we are immensely grateful."
-William W and Anh N, Canada
"5 years after my divorce and not being in a relationship at this moment , Ilana supported me to claim my power of aloneness . It all started with a simple, profound question: “What is turning you on these days?” Now when someone asks me my relationship status, I am proud to express, “I am not attracted to any men right now and I am finding creative ways to full aliveness on my own. I’m grateful for this special time to stand very powerfully on my own with a newly found full freedom of choice." I’m grateful for Ilana who empowered me to see and be absolutely content and in acceptance of who I am at this moment."
-Michelle L, Malaysia
"My experience with Ilana is helping me to use empowering words when expressing my thoughts. Choosing empowering words even when times are chaotic or challenging is changing the way I express myself and my expectations. What is most important to me? What do I want and-or what is my boundary? Life with love and passion is a work in progress, a constant forward motion. My beloved is sacred to me; our verbal and sexual interactions benefit from this awareness.
Ilana is very present while talking on the phone, virtual video, and if in person all the better!!! She is such a powerful presence, she is soothing to the soul, gentle when needed then will give you an AHA moment that came out of nowhere. She directly questions statements with compassion and humor. Ilana lives with empathic awareness always open to life, love and lessons. She is an amazing human being."
-Debbie E, USA
"Ilana’s contribution has been instrumental to my process of seeking aliveness in everything I do. Her coaching at a distance while my partner of 20 years and I went through a huge relationship transition was invaluable.
I was dealing with a lot of emotional chaos and she provided elegant and gentle re-framings that were exactly what I needed. Even through the medium of video call sessions, her energy comes through. I would definitely recommend her to anyone who is ready to open themselves to their own desires."
-Kristin R, Ireland
Regardless of how experienced you are sexually, there is great freedom and fun in embracing the possibility that your sexual expression is still untapped, and there's SO MUCH MORE for you to experience. Experiential coaching offers an opportunity for you to discover new trajectories to a revitalized sexual and intimate life.
Please contact me for a free 20 minute consult call.